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10 Life Lessons Learnt from Dealing with Toxic People

Updated: May 16, 2022

Did you run into a toxic person? Don’t fret; I’ve got your back.

How Do You Recognize a Toxic Person?

If you know someone who’s difficult and causes a lot of conflict in your life, you may be dealing with a toxic person. These people can create lots of stress and unpleasantness for you and others, not to mention emotional or even physical pain. Source: WebMD

You can find these people at your home, within your family, at your workspace, among your peers, and in your friend circle, among many other places. Watch out and maintain a safe distance from them, even if it turns challenging.

My Experiences Dealing With Toxic People

I’ve been struggling with stupid people who came into my life and seemed to hold a permanent place in my head for a long time. Every time I thought of them and their toxicity, I hated them and wished they’d escape from this planet as if they never existed. I knew this wouldn’t happen though. The more I thought of not thinking about them, the more I thought of them.

The more I thought of them, the more it affected me.

You can’t decide who you bump into, but you can choose who you keep in your life. Toxic or negative people are speed breakers on your path—they’ll make you feel stuck. It’s better you surpass them at the earliest, and never look back upon them.

Why Are Toxic People Harmful to Your Mental Health and Why Do You Need to Avoid Them?

  • You are emotionally drained when dealing with such people.

  • They expect too much of you, without caring about your condition, just because they want to satisfy their own insecurities.

  • Their actions influence you to hold a negative perception of yourself (this is tragic).

  • They hamper your confidence. You may even feel worthless.

  • They might blame you for everything that goes wrong in their lives.

  • You may struggle with trust issues because of them.

  • They leave no stone unturned to ruin your mental peace.

Getting over Toxic People and My Lessons Learned from the Experience

This phase was frustrating, but I had to move on. I tried and struggled a lot. Thankfully, in the end, I succeeded. I moved on.

Right now, I feel so much peace in my mind and so much positivity. I have learned my lessons, and I am sharing them with you in the hope that if you ever get stuck in such a mental rut, I might help you out of it.

1. Understand Why You Are Bothered by That Particular Person

Analyze the situation from the start. Highlight what they did wrong to you. Don’t make excuses for their bad behavior. They did what they did because that’s how they are. It isn’t about you, it’s about them.

You can choose whether to forgive them or not. But do not hold grudges against them, as it will negatively affect you.

Imagine someone out there behaving toxically towards you, and you had to bear the burden and the suffering for however long it took. How does that make sense? Do you deserve the suffering?

Instead, you understand that they are not mentally sane and pray that they ‘Get well soon!’

2. Analyze Their Influence on Your Life

How long have you known them? Do they really matter in your life? Have they been good to you before? If so, tell them how you feel. Else, let go of them.

3. Remember the Previous Toxic Cases You’ve Overcome

Then too, you had a hard time. But you have handled it on your own. Gather strength and inspiration from this achievement and work on your next one.

4. Believe That You’re Going through a Passing Phase and That You Will Get Over It Soon

It’s your mind that will make things easy for you, like breaking a piece of chalk, or hard for you, like breaking a mountain. You have to make a conscious decision here because toxic thoughts will follow you until you finally shatter them.

5. Learn How to "Not" Give Them the Importance

Think of the good things in your life; the struggles you’ve overcome, the life you’ve built, and the greater things you’ve achieved. Then compare it with that toxic person. They don’t even stand close. They are only a waste of time.

6. Stop Assuming They’re Good or Have a Good Side

This will confuse your brain, resulting in more suffering. Do not be influenced by what others think about them. They treated you unfairly. That’s the end of the topic.

7. Don’t Be Afraid to Disrespect Them

Society has imposed nonsensical rules on us. As per them, respect must be given based on age, caste, creed, status, and wealth.

As a matter of fact, respect has to be earned by showing it, and toxic people have certainly not earned it. So don’t bother being harsh to them. If you can’t do that, avoid them.

8. Keep Them Out of Your Reach

When you run into them, keep your distance and maintain a shallow and formal attitude. This will keep things safe and smart.

9. Embrace the Good Things in Life

Spend time with the people who care about you. Sometimes, stupid people make you appreciate good people more. Hold on to the good people; they are worth your attention more than the others.

10. Implement the Golden Rule

Love yourself. Because when you do so, you will not give a damn about any dumbhead, in the long run.

I wish you strength and love for your journey. I hope you rise above your sufferings and get back to living life with happiness.

This article is featured in RANDOM.


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